your very welcome, pleased i could be of some help, my daughter was exactly the same with her stuff, she never liked anyone touching at all, thats why it got to her so much when i took her favourite stuff, it was actually funny to watch, good luck
My child is nearly 5, so maybe I have it all to come. However, I feel it sounds very wrong to spank/smack any child, steal from them, show no emotions when they get hurt and to set them tasks knowing they will find them too hard. If I think back to the time I was that age, my parents interactions with me, both negative and positive, have really stuck in my mind and have left a lasting mark in terms of how they have shaped me and my relationships.