Thanks fiona.

Everything is happening now. My Stepsons bio father is a "drug dealer", and as my Step son wants to see him, "drugs" will only be glorified.

I will stick to my guns, even if it means I lose everything, even my wife.

whenI was told about my sons drug taking, I must admit I exploded and threatened to string him up (just words meant to scare him). or course I was the bully, thug call it what you will.
I did ask him what he would have thought if I said to his mother "I dont want to knowm YOU deal with it!" what kind of father would that make me.
"Not a very good one", he said it not me. His mother heard it too.
I said to his mother because this is putting a strain on our marriage. If it meant that he stays away from drugs then I would do it again!