Cathy, its so hard isn't it when you can't see what your child is like at school. I did have the idea of asking the teacher to video the class so I could see what my daughter would be like so she is going to look into it. Have you tried talking to your health visitor, mine is great and has some really sound advice. I find that she is the neutral ground as she is not involved with the school. If you fancy a chat then amanda_astbury@hotmail.com