Hi, I have just had my daughters parents evening, and whereas her work is absolutely superb, her behaviour can be quite disruptive. She trys to always command the attention of the adult in charge, is quite bossy with her peers, doesnt like to do what an adult asks her to. The teacher is putting her on the Special needs register so she can be registered. I am a single fulltime working mum, so I think it could be p artly because she always has one-one attention on a weekend that she is behaving like this. Does any one have any advice or has anyone had a similar experience ?

I'm having an almost identical problem with my six year old. She is doing really well with her schoolwork, but she wants to be in charge, and when she can't be, either with an adult or with other children, she yells and this week even threw a chair. This behavior is completely new in the last six weeks, and she does not behave like this at home. Also, she has been sleeping alot more than normal...about twelve hours a night. I'm concerned and completely bewildered about what's going on with her. Can anyone help?

hi Cathy, what have the teachers said to you about it so far, and could anything have happened recently to trigger it, eg house move, or maybe has her teacher changed with the start of the new school year.

Hi Amanda, Her teachers have been great with her. They are using the you are not a bad person, but you are making bad choices approach. They have been firm yet kind to her. They have asked me if she has had any changes at home, or experienced any trauma...but the answer is no, nothing has changed at home. I try asking her to tell me, but she just says that she doesn't like herself(something that she has never heard from us) and that she doesn't have any friends. Her teacher tells me that she sometimes seem to really like what she's doing and at other times seems so sad.

Cathy, its so hard isn't it when you can't see what your child is like at school. I did have the idea of asking the teacher to video the class so I could see what my daughter would be like so she is going to look into it. Have you tried talking to your health visitor, mine is great and has some really sound advice. I find that she is the neutral ground as she is not involved with the school. If you fancy a chat then amanda_astbury@hotmail.com