Well, I guess people can change. Making a broad statement like "I don't ever want him around my child" is kind of harsh. I mean he can't do anything when you are sitting there. Does this mean family events are off unless one of you stay home? I wouldn't recommend you leaving your child with him - but given it being family - it is hard to just totally cut out. Just be relaxed about it. Don't give him or the situation too much thought. Just be with her if he is at a family gathering. The thing is that there are these types of people all around - if not him - someone else. So what are you going to do to have different types of people around you? And how will you inspire your child to follow her heart and be with people who mean her well? Those are the bigger questions that he just helped bring up!!!