I think you're doing the right thing by keeping this man away from your daughter - better to be safe than sorry. Children do need to learn about the world, but they don't need to be in harms way when learning.
I think you are doing the right thing. With out going into too much detail, I have had experience of the sort of situation you have described, and this sort of character should be avoided - for your child AND yourself. In your heart you know that this person presents values that you do not agree with and are generally not acceptable, so don't accept them. If others turn away from you because of your decision, so be it. They obviously also have standards that are not acceptable to you either. If this means that you feel that you are isolated and alone as you have alienated yourself from this person and the family, then find another life for yourself. There are loads of great people out there, and all you have to do is be brave and go and meet them. Don't ever tolerate people in your life that are no good for you and your family, you will only regret it. A famous actor (irrelevant which one) was asked what it was that had given him the chance to become successful. He replied, 'I was a failure for many year, until I got rid of all the negative people in my life'. Do yourself a favour and do the same. xx
Well, I guess people can change. Making a broad statement like "I don't ever want him around my child" is kind of harsh. I mean he can't do anything when you are sitting there. Does this mean family events are off unless one of you stay home? I wouldn't recommend you leaving your child with him - but given it being family - it is hard to just totally cut out. Just be relaxed about it. Don't give him or the situation too much thought. Just be with her if he is at a family gathering. The thing is that there are these types of people all around - if not him - someone else. So what are you going to do to have different types of people around you? And how will you inspire your child to follow her heart and be with people who mean her well? Those are the bigger questions that he just helped bring up!!!
