thanks Nicci taking the time to answer me.
You gave me hope and I am defnitely going with this advice. Its good to know we not alone out there and ther is also other people with the same troubles.
I decided to give her absolute security in myself, we are going away this weekend camping (my chldren are already on vacation with my parents to Mosambique) so I am going to use this "alone" time with her giving her security.
Bye Bye