thanks for your reply its just nice to share it with someone thats not emotionaly involved. We have decide not to change schools at the moment as in sept she is having a teacher back in her class that she is very close to,  she is allready doin ballet and tap twice a week and swimming lessons, she also does piano, we would get her into judo, we will look into some kind of mind and body class, but she only has 3 days out of seven to play with her toys. cheers for your advice. will check with you again another time thankyou again,