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Re: she's 18 and 5 years old at the same time

Hi, until your daughter experiences how hard life can be for herself then she will never learn. If she wants to move out let her, she will then have to get a job and look after her own home. It will be quite a shock to her! Just make sure that the door is left open for her to return home to you. Try to support this idea of independence, and be encouraging not judgemental. She will be back!

Re: Re: she's 18 and 5 years old at the same time

I agree with the other poster- if she is not willing to take responsibility for herself at home she should go out into the real world and see how difficult things can be out there! i think it would be a real learning experience for her. It is totally unfair what she is doing to you, i would refuse to give her any more money whatsoever and tell her that if she wants the priveledges of being an adult then she must also accept the responsibilities and when she starts to do that (ie get a job) then she can expect more from you. In other words, you help her only if she makes an effort to help herself. it may seem a little harsh but do you still want her relying on you for cash at 30? she needs to learn about real life and take some responsibility for herself. good luck!

Re: Re: Re: she's 18 and 5 years old at the same time

Slip two quarters in an envelope on her pillow with the note "call for help any time" and let her go. Unless she is bumming at a friend's, she'll be back within a few weeks. You may want to consider providing her some kind of long-term birth control if she is not responsible herself- hormone implants, IUD or whatever works. Stay out of her business. As much as she may hate you for knowing anything, it will worry her if you ignore her.