Hi
Just thought that maybe something as simple as which hand he is using could solve part of the problem. We all have kids who copy - maybe he is using the wrong hand for writing cause he thinks that this is the 'right' hand to use. Something so simple yet it has not been mentioned - even by the so called teacher who does not believe that using a pencil is as important as it used to be. Of course it is important - not everyone will have access to a computer in later life, especially if they cannot write down the answers in an exam situation and subsequently fail all their exams - no certificates, no job, no money, no computer. OF COURSE IT IS IMPORTANT!!! What I also think is appauling is that the same person mentioned "to very mild (not I said very mild) brain damage" - I mean is that a typing error or what - I cannot believe that you were so tactless as to type that in the first place and even more so that you did not read it back and think about how it was going to be taken. It does not come out the way I hope you intended - almost the opposite in fact. I am really mad to think that children can be labelled even subconciously by teachers who can and might even think that they have some sort of brain damage because they can't write!!! Bit dramatic don't you think?
To the mum - sorry I can't look back for your name - don't worry, we all do and will continue to worry till they are well grown. Try him using his other hand - he may be more comfortable. Reassure him and as was also suggested, get him practicing without him being aware using paints and fun stuff - try lego or playdo for co-ordination and control, simple threading wool thru a plastic hole - maybe a pile of buttons - all just to encourage concentration and control - it will come - he is only wee! and very young. Hope this and the other helpful advice helps - remember some people are better at some things than others but all will shine in their own way.
Fiona
PS - I'm not a classroom teacher but I've been a 'hands on' childminder for 8 years and maybe have a more realistic and helpful response to your concern.