I have an eleven year old stepdaughter that despises me. There have been arguments where she has hit me. My husband took her side nearly every time. Recently he has realized just how bad her attitude is and just how horrible she is becoming. My biggest fear is that she will one day harm my children. I would suggest that you go to family counciling. If you are concerned about your child getting hurt then I would do whatever you could to prevent it.
Eventually such occurances according to my calculations will end like this.
Your stepsons will rape your daughter when theyre about 20.If you dont want that talk to your husband at bed hell eventually come to your side.Then...BEAT THE %#@$ OUT OF THOSE SONS AND TELL THEM WHOS BOSS!