i was wondering if anyone could help me with problems im having with my 5 yr old grandaughter who i have custody of.
she has always been a bit hyperactive but since starting school in september she has turned into a nightmare, she has started to steal things but she is so adamant the things she takes are hers, she is now scared of the dark which she has never been before, now she has started to cling to me when its time to go into school or even if i just have to go to shops she screams uncontrolable. When she is in her room she is going out of her way to trash everything ie drawing on walls smashing things going into her aunties room and taking things just to smash, she is so cheeky some things she says is too old for her years,
i thought about her being bullied but teachers said she is well liked in school and she isnt being bullied after i leave her kicking and screaming she is ok and goes on as if nothing has happened.
im at my wits ends with her i cant do right for doing wrong at the minute. we are going on holiday in june and im dreading her going on like this in the hotel. i will be gratefull for any feed back from other parents
What's her behaviour like in school? How is she doing?
You could try making an appointment to discuss this with her teacher. I would explain the changes you've experienced with her behaviour and ask them if they can shed any light on it? Is she struggling at school (in which case school must be really hard work)? If she has always been hyperactive, does the school think she might have adhd?
You must be fantastic grandparents to be bringing her up.... but is there anything that's happened to her before that might be worrying her por upsetting her?
I'm sorry I can't be of more help....but you could first try the school to see if they could shed light on it.... Then how about asking for help from the health visitor? Maybe she can help with behaviour management.
I really hope you get some help here as it sounds like you're doing a fantastic job here.
Good luck.
thanks for the reply it means alot.
i went into school and they said when i leave her she usually stops crying and goes on as if nothing happened, she is doing ok at school no real problems with her work she is typical 5 yr old.Only worry they seem to have is with her helping herself to other peoples stuff. they said they can refer me to behaviour unit which i agreed with so im just waiting for them to get in touch.
Casey doesnt see her parents she has been with me since she was 3 month old, parents descided life without her was better. (more fool them i say). she does know im her nana and not her mam but dont think she fully understands any of it yet and i dont think i could start to explain to her yet why she came to live with me.(i will do when she is old enough to take it in). ive been looking at articles about adhd and there is so many different things to look at i dont honestly know where to start.
im just hoping this behaviour soon dies down so i can get the casey back i know. Again thanks for reply
I hope the behavioural referral comes through soon. You sound so lovely and accepting....she's really lucky to have you....
I'm just wondering if any other lovely children have said something to her (like 'Your mum didn't want you'), something they've picked up from their parents.....? Just an idea.....
I'm sure with your consistent love she'll get through this!!!!
