Have you been into school?
If you're in the Uk, he's either in Yr 6 or 7... go and she his teacher/form teacher... without him knowing if necessary. Explain what is going on. Ask to see the anti-bullying policy. Ask what they intend to do to sort it out.
By loving and supporting your child, you can't sort out what is happening in school... and it needs to be stopped before it gets worse.
There are social skills courses available for schools to use with children that find socialising hard.
Is there any other boy he gets on with? perhaps you could encourage this friendship?
Good luck... keep us posted.
Your son shouldn't have to put up with this... please tell the school. He has done really well not getting angry at school... he's doing all the right stuff!!!Now it's time for the teachers to do something.
If nothing gets sorted... start writing down what happens... dates etc so that the school has to do something.
This is bulling. Be on your son's side. But, don't teach him to feel upset. Ignoring them is the best. They will bug him less and less over time if he is not reacting.
But, they might not and it is important to empower him and teach him to not be hurt by it, to remember who he is, how wonderful he is, and that their comments don't change him and don't really mean anything.
Trying to change them will only cause him pain. Life if full of people saying hurtful things. Those who stay rooted in themselves are the winners.
It is bullying if its hurting him emotionally or physically, some kids could brush it off, others can't.
Agree that his best tactic is ignoring them, let them know it doesn't bother him what they think of him, build up his confidence and whatever you think of whats going on support his feelings about it all so he knows your on his side 100%. Words can be extremely powerful, say something often enough and it sticks. An interesting fact for you: for every one bad thing a person hears about themselves it takes 7 good things to undo the damage...something you can make very good use of in this situation. My daughter had a blackboard on the kitchen wall when she was being bullied in this way and we'd keep a list of 7 positive things about her on it changing it regularly...very effective. Try and get him to join clubs out of school, martial arts for example build confidence and self esteem and he won't be the only one going due to bullying problems so he may find he just slots in better with the kids there.
I love the advice you got so far, especially the chart, you can even keep it in a more private spot in your home, if you think your son (being a bit older) may be embarassed by it. And telling the school without your child knowing is brilliant.
When my kids come home and talk about the bullying they witness at school, we talk about the bully and try and figure out what could be bothering him. What are the hardships in his life that he's not able to cope with properly? My kids understand that a bully is not a bully, but a child hurting inside, and often if you could figure out what might be hurting that kid, you can help 2 at once, yours most importantly, but the bully too, and in turn the other kids that the bully won't move onto if he/she learns a better way of dealing with their feelings than hurting other kids. I would demand the school deal with the bully with counsel, not punishment, and your childs ease at school should follow. A child who is told that an anonymous person is concerned about them has to wonder who that is, but enjoys the idea that someone they may not even know out there really cares. I remeber having that feeling once myself. Your child may be past the point of understanding the kids hurting him, but if he can learn to understand, sympathy is a much better feeling to have than anger, which your son seems to be avoiding well already. Please keep us posted, I'm always most concerned about the bullied kids, they can be pushed to unbelievable limits and don't deserve to dread waking up and going to school every day. I've been there. What a strong boy you have.
My advice may not be the best for older kids like yours, but it works well with mine. Good luck, your doing great!
