Hi, my daugher is 6 and has difficulty in obeying things which we ask her, esp in the morning when I ask her to dress up or have breakfast. She will rather be reading story books or sitting lazy but does not do anything unless we scold her. I am 5 months pregant and has really difficult time as she doesnot even brush her teeth or wash her face unless I scold her. That make her always late at school.I don't think it is my pregancy which is causing it as she has been lazy like this since before. I would be glad if you tell me how would I improve her habbit.

Have you tried a sticker chart for rewarding good behaviour? I have a 5 year old who can be extremely difficult and we created a chart together, he choose his stickers and me told me what he would do to earn the sticks (with some guidance from me inc getting dressed in the morning). We built in a bit of flexibility ie he must do things after being told twice rather than once, but it did work. He now gets dressed automatically now without me asking him. He understands it's part of his routine. At the end of the day we would count his stickers and if he had a certain amount he would get a sweet.
I'd give it a try however you need to really stick to your guns with it as it's not an overnight success and they do tend to slip back on occasions into old habits. But then you just create a new chart with different stickers and change the rewards.
Hope this helps.

My son is 4 and we had a really bad time with him following our requests. He wouldn´t get dressed when we told him or tidy up his room and things like that. It was as if he was permanantly testing our consistency. I tried the method of natural consequences which worked out fine. We would for example tell him that if he didn´t get dressed he would be taken to kindergarten in his pyjama. When he didn´t react I would just take a bin liner to put his pyjama in. That was enough to make him get dressed. We did that in all difficult situations and made sure that we always had a consequence for him ready. I hope I could be of help.

It sounds as if her behaviours are attention seeking. Even though its negative attention she is getting, its acting as a reinforcer, thus the behaviour continues.
Try only giving her attention for good behaviour and no attention for bad behaviour. Always follow thru with your requests (i.e. if you told her to get dressed and she refuses, say nothing, dont make eye contact and get her dressed). I hope this is feesible and makes sense.

Kind Regards,
Tana Richards
www.thebehaviourchangeclinic.com