I think i may be able to help with the food issue. Never give in to a child when he refuses to eat something simply take it away. Bribery only works for so long so what i find best is when you make a meal try something like cottage pie coz it has mash potato. Put it in front of him and don't really say anything if he makes a fuss just carry on eating yours. The best way is not to fuss over them as they know they will get your attention be it good or bad by not eating. Eventually he will probably try a bit (maybe not the first day or the second) Just whatever you do don't give up and don't give him other foods to substitute what he won't eat. If he refuses to eat he simply has nothing. Seems harsh i know but if they are really hungry they will eat.