Mommy Kate, I have not read the other responses, yet… but one thing I would guess is that your 10 year old feels terrible about this issue. It may be a small bladder it may be an over active bladder or perhaps a problem with her urgency mechanism that we all have that tells us we have to go isn’t working properly?

There HAS to be a reason behind it beyond her control. I would not embarrass her any further than wetting herself already does, I would get a second opinion from another GP. You have to imagine how she feels at 10 years old every time this happens. I would urge to continue being patient and hope that it works itself out, but if by the age of ten this has never stopped It HAS to be medical, wouldn’t you say?

After reading the other post, I have to say I still feel the same, I think she approaches you in this manner of not caring due to shame and guilt, not all children cry and become un-nerved.

They do make diaper type undies for older children. I would allow her to wear them to the shops and to school.

Is your daughter standard when it comes to schooling? has she ever wet her self at school, in front of the other children?

I feel terrible for her. I would keep being patient with her without drawing too much attention and still ignore it as much as possible,when ever possible.