Dancer,
Thanks for your reply w/my situation and its much more than normal behavior by far. She lives in a very disfunctional household. One that has led to her 12yr old brother attempting suicide last year in August.

As for your situation - talk to your pediatrician. My 13yr old started her monthly when she was 9 1/2 yrs old and I had to sit her down and explain the birds and the bees. We talk openly and she is very aware of consequences. She is very private with her body. My stepdaughter on the other hand has been raised in a bad environment and loves being "sexy", flirts with grown men, talks to men driving thru the neighborhood, and has already made out with an older boy at school. She was able to describe oral sex to my 13yr old. We really have to keep a watchful eye on her.
Watch who your child hangs out with, peers, sitters, people at both of those households. Could she have been touched innappropriately and now thinks this is normal? Is she acting out something that happened to her already? How does a 10yr old know to do those things without being shown? I don't mean to alarm, but now and days there are so many sick people who contact our children in ways we can't even dream of. Just be watchful and ask alot of questions rather than exploding on her. She needs to explain where she came by this behavior and explain what she gets out of it.

I have to admit that I also have the same concerns that you do. With my child being so easily led, she is a follower who often plays the fool to try to gain friends, she has fallen into this same situation on one occasion. I summed it up as childs play and let it go at a talk. 10 is still very young.

hi..

well as we all know children get to an age where they are unaware of the intensities of sexual relationships but are facinated with the opposite sex. At 10 they dont realise what or why their bodies are the way they are and if they have been subjected to any type of sexual behaviour, whether it be films or just talk, they cant help but wonder!

Myself i belive that it is just a phase, one that i myself went through and know other people the same.. Being harsh on the child could affect them later in life, you just need to say look your not ment to be doing that (touching etc.) but they will grow out of it themselves.. Its not down to bad parenting etc.. just a child exploring the world and trying to get a better understanding.

Thanks so much for your reply motherinbed. Thats what I believe deep down inside about the situation, I feel it was two innocent kids exploring each with each other, but on the other hand after it happend the second time I was very harsh with her, as I didnt want it to happen a 3rd time and go even further, like actual penitration etc.
I am trying very hard to let it go but I find my self bringing it up often as to teach a lesson in everything that comes along about decisions and rules etc...and it seems that its a bigger deal to me than it is to her.

But thanks again...Im open for any and all advice on the matter.

this issue has come and gone for the most part in our home, I just wanted to add that my daughter has fessed up to how this all came about and as it turns out the boy bribed her/threatend her(in a simple ten year old manner) to tell on her, for something she did at school, and she thought of it as a good way to not get into trouble,
Also the boy asked her if she wanted to do it "rape or regular" I dont know what he meant by that and she doest either, and I dont believe the boy knows what he was talking about....I have made the choice to keep her away from this boy he will be 11 years old in a matter of weeks, and I think he has started puberty and will continue to seek out some kind of fufillment with his new "discovery" down below.