Hello - First let me start by telling you that I have just gotten my daughter back from her daddy, she has been with him for the past 6 months. She is 3 yrs old and has made a habit of argueing with everything I tell her to do. When told to do something she responds by saying no, I can't, or I don't want to.
I think her father has allowed her to get away this kind of behavior but I don't believe she should be allowed to act this way. I am at a lost as to how to deal with this behavior. I don't want to spank her but I don't believe that putting her in time out will help in this matter either. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Help me please? I am at a lost here.

Hi, I had the same problem with my daughter and son, especially when it came time to clean their rooms.
I kept asking them the same thing over and over but they kept saying I can't.

So I used reverse phycology, and when they asked me for things when I went shopping I kept saying "I can't and "I don't want to" and eventually I think I got my point across because my children realised that they were missing out on more than what I was.

I hope this has helped, it worked wonders for me.