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Re: Re: i need help

thanks for your advice, unfortunately im not in a position to use the service.

Re: i need help

maybe she needs good attention from u. she might feel like the things she's dealing with no one understands. u could try taking her out one day and it be only the 2 of u so u can ask her to tell u everything thats bothering her. sometimes kids act out because they want attention but when they get it, they're normally in trouble. so if u try to work out some of the problems she has with her it might help a little. another thing i saw help a young girl was having her invite a couple friends over for a sleep over and u could think of crafts they would like to do and that could help get her self esteem up. maybe if she was happier at home she would do well in school and then be happy all the time

Re: Re: i need help

thanks for your reply. tried all the things you suggested. unfortunately, her behaviour stems from an abuse she suffered at the age of 5 and things have still not been resolved since then.

Re: Re: Re: i need help

Hi, I am sorry your daughter is having these issues, it seems obvious to me that she hasn't achieved closure about the abuse she suffered when she was 5. I think she is probably feeling worthless as a result of this abuse and blames herself for it happening in the first place. You need to help her to understand it was not her fault. Jessica is right to advise you to give her positive praise and ignore her when she is seeking attention in a negative way. Even if this just means calmly leaving the room. Does your daughters school know about the abuse, as they are in a good position to support her, if they do not know about it then they may look on her behaviour in a less than understanding way. Also is this man out of your daughters life, completely? If he is still around then she may be frightened of him coming back again.

Try to get your daughter to understand this abuse was in the past and there is nothing anyone can now do to change it, but that her future doesn't have to be destroyed by it. You too must be feeling a certain amount of guilt that you weren't there to protect your daughter, perhaps you should have had counselling together. Take care and good luck.