my daughter is 3 years old and is refusing to go a number two. she tells me that she's scared and holds it in for days at a time. i've tried laxatives and herbal remedies but she still refuses and sometimes it's a week before she relieves herself please help!!!!

Is she weating diapers? If not, let her weat diapers and don't put any pressure on her.

You may have to give her something internal to help, but meanwhile work on her emotional need to hold on. Usually this means she is holding in emotions and is not feeling free to let go. Guarding her feelings, not trusting, insedure. My son went through a similar period and I gave it little attention, but used what I learned from the book, Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves, to help him free his feeelings. He became expressive and the problem vanished.

thanks i'll try that, she's out of nappies and happy to wee but it's just the number two thing!