my 9 year old sounds very similar...very strong will..strong opinions...competitive...but very lazy and unambitious..

I have recently started a reward system as Liz mentioned. He has to earn the right to watch tv and play computer games...

each week I add new items to my list.

I am not as tough as I could be....but I am seeing some effects...


good luck
let us know how it goes.

Lina