HI! My step son was not quite as bad as your situation, but close. We got him into counseling and filled out papers at school to try and get him into an alternative class room because of emotional problems. The counselor also told us to try a daily reward system. With this system he was expected to not get into trouble at school or at home, not be disrespectful, Do his homework, and not mouth back. If he didn't follow the expectations then he had privleges taken away. We had 3 things we used mostly. And it's all or nothing. We used tv, video games, and playing with friends. If he didn't follow the "rules" or "expectations" then he lost all 3 privleges for that day only. When he woke up the next day he started fresh. We arrainged with the teachers to notify us daily of his behavior and work. After a few weeks it started to get a little better. Now we have many more good days than bad and he even is getting good grades. Huge turn around!!! Oh and like I said before it's all or nothing. 1 bad thing gets all taken away. You don't wait till your frustrated and no yelling. It's just simply "you didn't follow the rules so as you know you can't have your privleges". Yes he got upset, but with time it all got better.Good Luck!!
