Hi its me. He is a boyfriend of 2 years and is here quite a bit. If he is disciplining out of anger and yelling or just being unfair (according to me)do you think it is ok to interrupt and say," Excuse me, could we talk first?" I teach my kids to calm down first if they are angry, can I do that with my boyfriend with out making the kids think I am belittling his authority or him feel like I am belittling him. I don't know if that makes sense.