Thank you so much, what lovely replies, not to mention very helpfull!

I am very proud of both my children, they are both loving effectionate no a melicious bone in either of them. They both play together fantastic although of course they can both have there moments like all siblings rivalry, but they are both so very protective of each other too. There was an incident which happened at the neighbours just a few weeks ago where i was there and both my kids because it was the twins birthday, quite a difficult one to avoid unfortunately, But anyway the 3 year old madam i think because she was after the attention started lashing out, and i mean full fisty cuffs which to me isnt normal for a little girl let alone at age of 3, but she was pelting my sons back, the mother got her off him and i said "well im proud as punch of him coz he didnt retalliate and hit her back, he did a very manly thing there" she happen to replie "well you dont know why she was hitting him" so i asked him and he said" i was stopping her from hitting my sister" bless him he was taking the punches so that she couldnt get his sister who was stood in front of him.

It was only at that point that i realised there would NEVER be a time that this woman would see my two as being good kids and that she would always make excuses for her own.

I took my kids back home and felt sooo proud of my son, told him so and gave him the biggest hug and kiss