Hi, welcome to the forum.

I may not be the best one to answer you, I have not experienced divorce, or stepchild situations, but I just wanted to reassure you, I'm sure you will get no harsh judgements here. The ladies and gents who post here, while very honest, are very understanding and open minded, and we all have our own issues that we hope others will understand.

What I do know is, emotions run very high when children are involved. I don't know why your husband isn't allowed to see his son, but I do know it must hurt him terribly, and he sounds like a very loving Dad.

I think you are being too hard on yourself here. Your feelings, whether they are right or wrong, are very real, and if you feel your needs aren't being met, then you are quite right to say so.

Is there any way your husband can go through the courts and legally get the right to see his son? I think this would help to lessen the strain on your family. The seems to be a hint of panic here, due to the fact that access is being denied, or at least made very difficult. Z is obviously devoting so much emotionally to seeing him now that it is affecting your relationship. If he had guaranteed access on a regular basis, he could let his feelings calm down and enjoy rebuilding the relationship with his son. Perhaps in the future both your sons could get to know each other too.

I wish I could help more, I wish you all the best

Love Liz x

He chooses to be with you.....

jen

You've just put a tear to my eyes, jen. Thank you for your support (and Liz, thanks for being understanding). At least I know that my "silly" feelings are considered normal but surely, I'll try to make things work better for us.

Thank you once again.