What can I do to cure the jealous behaviour that my 9 year daughter old shows to anyone who wants to be friendly with me? it's not just dates, but phone calls and sometimes even the babysitter.
I have been alone for some time now, yet when I go out, or am not where she expexcts me to be, she gets cross and makes a scene by crying and being naughty.
I am determined to have a social life but want her to stop pushing people away. I have great support from my babysitter and my family, though they live far away. She has been behaving this way since she was about 5. I have been a great Mum and never given her cause to behave this way, sometimes she's a monster!

I think she is old enough to explain to her no matter what she is always going to be the most important in your life. But that the same way she has friends in school, you need friends too. Try asking her about her feelings and why it is bothering her so much.

Hi,

thank you for these words, I will do exactly as you suggest and keep saying it too.

I will let you know of our progress, because it's something that will teach and benefit us both, I'm sure.

Deb

Does she see her father?
I am sorry, I have no idea what to do, other than recommend my parenting counselor, the author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves. Some parenting issues cannot be solved by sharing with other parents and need more experienced source of advice. The book is on Amazon. Read it first. You may find your own answer.

Hi, thank you so much for your help. No she doesn't see her Dad. He signed her over to me telling the judge that he had nothing to offer a baby!

it's been us and my immediate family, our own friends and our mutual ones since she was 17 months old.

It's tough and I worry about not being a good enough Mum, I guess we all have fears of some kind.
thanks,

Deb