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touching in school

my six year old was touching another kids private parts. How do i approach her with this?

Re: touching in school

Does she understand that we don't touch each other's private parts? You could start by letting her know where it is appropriate for her to be touched by other people and explain that parts of her body are special and nice and should not be touched by other children or even most adults - reassuring her about the doctor and times when you might need to help her with the private parts.

Then you could move on to just as others will not touch her in certain ways, she should not touch others in this way.

This is then beginning to learing about stranger danger etc.

Good luck

Re: touching in school

I wouldn't worry bout approaching her with it, but about finding the source: Who touched her out of curiosity? Or did she see such touching? Heard about it? I would be concerned rather than teaching her that she is doing something wrong (killer of self-esteem.)

Re: touching in school

All kids are curious. Don't panic, stay real calm. Ask your child very casually, why they touched this other child there. Explain that it is normal to be curious, but it may upset the other child, so it is best not to do it. Then suggest a game that they could play together, (as a way of distraction). Or you could try ignoring it first time round. Your child may have seen someone else do it, or may have had it done to them. You need to stay calm to get as much information as possible. Best of luck Sarahxx.

Re: Re: touching in school

Teach her that our bodies are ours only...No one should touch her and she doesnt need to touch others...(good touch bad touch)

Its not that serious but at 6 yrs. the First grade teachers may get upset, so your child has to be told.
even if its as simple as we keep our hands to ourself.