I understand that sometimes we ask others for their opinion on child raising/relationships etc. I understand how difficult it must be if you are not able to do this. I understand because I (at 39) have a 17 YO sister with older parents who are doing things a lot differently than they did with me not only because they are older but because they are not 'with it' in the same way as other parents with friends with children of the same age.
I would say that you have to ask on here are take what you want from it, use your own experiences of being a child and on the receiving end of your parents ways, but most importantly you have to communicate with your daughter. The fact that she is expressing displeasure at your ideas means that she is not happy with what you are asking of her ie wear immature underwear, but also at your 'stubborness' at her continuing bacause you are the parent - she will wear what I want her to wear attitude. Relax, listen to her, have your own opinion but be prepared to be flexible within reason.
Hope things work out
Fiona
BTW - I am very much into discipline, do as I say becasue I'm the parent BUT - my kids are still little enough for that - they will not be when they are 12 and I fully expect that I will have to be 'chilled' when they get there and pretend to a certain extent to be their friend whilst maintaining the respect and discipline to stop them going off the rails.
Hi,
I just wanted to say that the Character shirts and underwear may be a little too much. I definatly think she should have a say in what you buy/ what she wears. At sixteen she may just sneak around your back if you can't be upfront. I do think that you should also have a talk and find ways to show her that it's not the clothes that make the girl. I remember how hard it was and how insecure I was.
Good luck
WOW....mommy2006. if your daughter hasnt already I would imagine that she will be getting her period soon, and wearing a bra. I think there were about 3 characters that would be ok for her age....older girls fancy hello kitty and Kim posible and sometimes Pooh.But the others are only for little girls. buy her plane undies, if your against older looking ones. and keep in mind mom that that site is called potty training concepts.
A healthy compramise may be for you to only buy what you are compfortable with her wearing and allow her to put her own outfits together. I do this with my 10 year old to encourage self esteem. There have been times when I have had to oppose and make her change but all in all it works out well, being that I am the one who makes the purchases.
