ummm hello she's 4!! I am a preschool teacher myself ,i work with 4 yr olds as well... i think you need to have a talk with the director, that is just too harsh to expect a 4 yr old to sit there and not say a word. At my school, before i get ready to teach ,i have a talking stick that i let anyone who wants to come up and say something hold on to and they tell whatever it is they want to say and after everyone has had a turn i then say " now its my turn to talk" and you would be amazed at how quiet the children are while i teach them. maybe the teacher needs to learn some creative ways to get the child's attention rather than check marks.