Hi Angela,

You want him to take responsibility for his behaviour. You want him to admit when he's wrong and apologise. When I read your answer to me I could not detect this very same attitude in your outlook - I mean your critical analysis was reserved for your son and not you or your partner, or your parents and you. What I am saying is children reflect their parents attitudes and approach to life. Your son is following in dads footsteps and, if the psychiatrist comes up with some medication - bingo - its happend again - your son is medicated for something that is not his responsibility. The source is psychological and emotional - I am pretty sure of that - anxiety is not a chemical - though I guess it turns into one. When mums and dads are willing to look at themselves, their children will reflect that maturity. So if your husband decided it was not only a chemical in his brain but something from his past too, he would have to face things. This facing things is the same thing you want from your son. It is a much less 'physical' way of thinking where we cannot make. Your husband is key I think.
Best wishes - thanks for replying to my relpy
David

David,
My husband has GAD or general anxiety disorder, which indeed is a chemical imbalance of the brain, due to the lack of serotonin......I have not taken my son to see a psychiatrist as of yet....he seems to be acting better. And as far as having him medicated, a friend of mine who has a son that she just took to see a psychaiatrist because he has GAD, told me that the Doctor suggested talk therapy since he is so young and she doesnt want him medicated or labeled, he flew right thru the therapy and is now doing so much better. I would never want my child to be medicated, i feel that there are too many children on medicine as it stands,so medicine for my child is incomprehensible to me at this point,ijust feel that he needs to learn some compassion for others (sister included) as well as some kind of anger management. That would really help him. I know some of his behavior is LEARNED behavior from my husband, he tends to blow things out of proportion quite a bit, that is why he is in therapy to learn to control that.
But he is in NO way a violent person, i dont want you to get the wrong idea, violence in my house will not be tolerated, he just gets upset easily which is what i think my son has learned from him.
Thank you for all of your responses.
Angela