Hi Joce, I have four daughters. Two are out of college and one has just been accepted. And then there is number four. She is ten and has had her moments. The "hate me" only happened once, I don't expect it to again.
I don't use physical punishment. I prefer that of consequence. State very clearly what consequence will result from a particular action and then follow through. The biggest mistake parents make is to yell and scream threats and not follow through. I never yell, I calmly explain the consequence, one that I am willing to follow through with, and go from there.
Things like bikes, TV, phone, friends over are all great things to take away for so many days. Just be sure to do it and the behaivor should change.
