Hi Lita, I feel your only choice at this stage is tough love. You have only about a year or so to gain control. At this time you need to be stern and strict. Every negative action needs a consequence. If you gain the upper hand now you still have a chance at a lasting mother/daughter friendship. Best of luck, Dennis with http:www.parenting-magic.com

FUCTIONAL FAMILY THERAPY MAY HELP. SHE IS CLEARLY UPSET OF THE BREAKUP AND PROBABLY IS BLAMING HERSELF OR EVEN YOU.