My 4 year old daughter is so shy at pre-school. She won't play with the other children even when they invite her to come play with them. I dropped her off at school today (she's been going to pre-school now for 2 months). She just stood there by herself on the playground even though the other kids asked her to come play ball with them. I ran up to the store and when I came back past the school 20 minutes later she was still standing there alone in the same place. It breaks my heart. My daughter says she has a good time at school. Am I expecting too much from her?
Sorry this is a short answer but I'm pushed for time right now for a long one. My question would be if you were away for 20 minutes - What were the teachers/staff doing? I would expect that it would be part of their job if not personality/nature to encourage children to play - certainly ones who need a little encouragement. She may just be a child who likes to be along - maybe its just all too much for her with new choices and making decisions. Have you tried asking one of the other family's round for coffee and letting the children play - you can then see what she is like on a one to one basis - maybe its just the busy environment of school which is getting to her.
Good Luck - remember she probably will not be shy when she hits the teen years!
