Sarah,

I have a problem similar to that only it is in reverse. I used to call my ex for advise on what to do with the kids but, he has told me to handle it on my own. It doesn't always work but, I don't call him anymore. I am the parent that they run all over not him. The only thing that I know to tell you is to just tell your ex-husband that you have tried to give him advise on what to do and he can either take it or leave it but, you are not going to discipline both houses and he needs to find a way to deal with the kids. Make him stand up and be a parent. You can't continue to do this. I know that you both have different lives now but, maybe in some way this is his way of hanging on to you. I way for him to somehow be in his life. I think that was part of what I was doing. I hope it helps.....Good Luck