Hi Carey,
The behaviour you describe absolutely reflects how your son is feeling. Anger and attack is always a cover emotion. It is what we use to defend ourselves against feeling the feelings underneath the defence. You are hurt about something so you attack. But if you felt the feelings underneath the attack you would feel sad, hurt, guilty, any number of softer feelings. Once these have been healed, and they can be with ease, there is no need to attack anymore. If you have hurt in you, or if the teachers do, or the other children do, your son's hurt has less chance of being noticed or sorted out, it just stays stuck in there, and the behaviour continues or gets worse. If you want to know how you can sort this out contact me at david@childproblem.co.uk and get some free reports all about this. Best wishes David