Honestly, I am surprised that he hasn't seen one before with all the links and popups out there. I was appauled when my niece was doing a paper on the president and www.whitehouse.com came up as a porn site (this was before they changed it because of all the complaints).
If your objections are for religious reasons I would recommend talking to you minister/priest or spiritual advisor. Otherwise I would say that being curious about sex is normal and that unfortunately adult content websites are a dime a dozen. You might want to say to him "look I know this is embarrassing and that you probably don't want to talk about it but I have some concerns. These websites are called adult websites because they are for adults so if you want to check them out we need to have an adult conversation about how it is safe to do that." Ask him what he thinks are appropriate guidelines. A few might be an hour a week, never giving out personal info, no pay sites and never ever agreeing to meet someone if he gets onto a chat site. One really big thing though is that he has to agree that you have access to his computer to monitor what sites he is on (if you need I can tell you how to see what sites he is visiting and the time that he is on them). If he starts to hide his activities or start to break the rules then it may be time to install a parental control program. Let him know that you will do that if the guidelines are not followed
I am sorry to hear about you and your wife splitting. Your son is normal! When you were 16 didn't you look at a naked woman every chance you got? I have a 15 yr. old son and believe me he looks at them when he can. He doesn't look at the web sites anymore because I have banned him from my computer if he does it again but, he has loooked at them. It sounds to me like your wife has her head in the clouds and thinks "My son doesn't do things like that." Well I hate to tell her but, EVERY male on this earth has done it and they will continue to do it until the end of time so she just needs to get over it. As for talking to him about it, I would just tell him that he has made his mother feel very uncomfortable and he doesn't need to do it any more. He WILL continue to do it. You can't really stop him unless you take the computer away from him. I am sorry but, that is just the way that it is and your wife needs to realize that.
