My sister has an 11 year old girl that is like a daughter to me so I find that I am often asked for advice on raising her. I am kinda at a lost as to how to handle this situation so PLEASE HELP! Last night when my sister got home form work (my neice stayed home because she was sick) my sister found that Haily (neice) had gone through her "personal~adult content holding" drawer. This drawer is know to be off limits to the kids so my sister was very upset about her in her daughter being broken. Not only had she gone through the draw but she had taken out one of the videos and watched part of it. Now I know that it is normal for kids to be curious about sex, but I have two questions. 1)How do you explain why mommy and daddy have these videos? 2)How do you discipline an 11 year old for going into drawers that she knows are off limit to her?
Oh boy i remember this happening to me but looking at it from my side then it was no big deal. it was just a part of growing up and curiosity.
i don't know if you need to explain why there are these videos, she probably already knows, which could be why she looked at them (maybe not). if you feel a punishment is in order, just give the usual one as i don't think you want to make this so big it scars her emotionally.
hope you don't think badly of me for having done the same thing when i was her age. but i know my curiosity would still be peaked if someone said "don't go in here" and i'm now 43! lol
hoping you all get something good out of the situation. Lessa.
Yeah I know that I also did the same. I told my sister to use the the opportunity for a casual sex talk. The privacy thing is the biggest issue though. I think that we should be able to have our kids respect the fact that we have things that they are not to touch. The problem is how to instill that value
glad i'm not the only one :)
i guess the only way to instill any value is by example.
but she's only 11 and she's still got a lot to learn. maybe she won't do it again if they just told her how they felt about what she'd done.
i hope it turns out well for everyone
