I would like any advice that can be given! I am a step-mother of one, a daughter, and I volunteered to keep my friend's children while they are out of state for a week! I love her children dearly, but they are very differnt from my own. The children all get along very well, and I have developed a chore list and reward system for all three-equal incentives. Her children tend to be more, creative? than mine. Their ages are 9 and 11, (mine is 9 as well) and I am anticipating problems. The 9 yr old boy lies very frequently-about anything, and the 11 yr old girl can be very impulsive at times. I know that they have had these problems at home, and I don't expect them to change their tune overnight, but I would appreciate any advice that would help me make an immediate stand that this behavior will not be tolerated in my home. Our families spend quite a lot of time together, and the kids know that I'm the more strict of the moms. One of my fears is that my daughter will chime in, as she can often be a follower. I've made it clear that she is not to "conform" and that she has to help me keep order. For example, it is not uncommon for the 11 year old to sneak food and hide it, or get up in the middle of the night, eat a can of vegetables and then try to hide the evidence ie: under the couch, in the dryer, etc. Any tips from seasoned experts on how to handle my dilema. As I said before, I'm a step-mother, a fortunate one at that, and have only been in the mommy business for three years. My age also factors in, I'm 22 and I often think I'm not "wise" enough to figure out their schemes. HELP?!?!
You are very sweet and very brave for watching your friends children for a week. More than likely it sounds like its going to be a long week but the good news is that it is only one week. My advice to you about the lies is to not give him a chance to lie. For example, if he/she sneaks downstairs late at night for a snack and then tries to cover it up. Normally you might ask him "did you do this?", instead tell him "I noticed you came downstairs last night for a snack, were you hungry? It is ok if you were but next time lets ask and see if we can get you something that sounds good to eat." I have found that most often open ended questions(the ones with yes or no answers) most always end in denial. Let him know that you have noticed what he may have done wrong and how to fix it.
Its ok that you are more strict that the others. but maybe keep in mind that you dont have to parent these children. Instead look at it more like entertaining guests. While their parents are on holiday, these children also are on holiday from their parents. Let them know that there are rules in your home and while the rules are being followed lets have some fun. Keep them occupied and busy and keep it fun. It will be less stressful for them and for you and time will go by more quickly. And remember its only one week.
Hope this may help a little.
