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Assuming that the child has not been through any traumatic events or seen or heard any disturbing sights or sounds and the home is emotionally safe and stable. The following suggestion has been successful for several parents who have children 2 years old and up that are testing limits and boundaries and trying to glean some control in their life.
Bed time rituals are a special time for you and your child. Let your child have some control in the bed time. For instance as bed time approaches ask the child a question that gives the child a choice and some ownership in bed time. Ask a simple but empowering question such as “would you like to go to bed now or in ten minutes?” The child is less likely to fight for control if you share a bit of control. Also consider changing the name of bedtime to bedroom time. Bedtime implies that they have to fall asleep and this in its self can add stress to the child. Bedroom time implies that you have to be in your bedroom but you don’t have to be asleep any time soon. Give the child permission to play quietly or look at books when you are not in the room some kids need quite wind down time. This releases some stress from the child and gives the child a sense of control therefore the child will be less inclined to resist. Of course the child may find that getting up in the morning is harder and may be tired all day but isn’t that the logical consequence for staying up later? If this is in fact the result don’t ruin the consequence and lesson learned by preaching moralizing and lecturing, just be empathetic and understanding.
It is important to have a bed time ritual. The ritual should start with a consistent wind down routine such as lower the volume in the home, dim the lights, brush teeth and get in jammies, say prayers and or read a story. Let the child talk about his or her day. Kiss and hug the child then say to the child “I am going to bed in my own room. If you come out of your room I will quietly and lovingly take you by your hand and walk you back to your room. I will place you on your bed and I will leave without saying a word or giving you a hug or a kiss. I will then leave your room and go back to my room. I love you goodnight.” Then give the child the choice of having the door open or closed, or lights on or off. Again the child is given some control and ownership and less likely to resist. Expect that the child will test your resolve here. Be consistent and patient it may take several times. Most important control your emotions be calm and quite say little or nothing. Good luck.

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My daughter used to do the same thing and still does sometimes, we now have a definate bed time, she watched the story makers on cbeebies then the first half of Emerdale, if she's not tired she is aloud her night light on for a short while (while i eat my tea!) and given a book to read, she seems to like this responsibility to choose when to settle down, within half an hour every night she has put her book under her pillow and is fast asleep. she was 3 on monday I'm sure your daughter will like this idea too