Teenage preganacy has an impact on more than just the teenager and the unborn child. How do mothers cope after finding out their baby is having a baby.
When it says "CHILDREN HAVING CHILDREN" WE THOUGHT IT MEANT, THE PHYSICAL.
It actually means the mind of poeple.
As a poeple we are very immature in the way we view and accept things in life. That is why we are 'killing and breeding' at the same time.
We expect to happen for us when we ask for it. And if it doesn't? Well all hell is let loose.
And many people around us, will suffer for what we have been deprived of.
So I'll scream, and scream and scream!!
That is a child.
As a midwife, Birth Counsellor, Birth Educator. I come across this question so many times. It is very painful, because this child, does not have a clue about being a mother. Has no clue about the pregnancy and birthing process. Does not understand the psychological, mental and physical effective this expereince will have on her for life.
Even in having a child so young, means that there will be regrets. If there is no male support in rasing the child, then hate is the order of the day.
There are mechanisms that the female uses to combat pain, anger for what she is put through, will go through and has gone through in order to survive and raise that child.
For the Mother (grandmother) she can feel she has failed. Now her life changes again to accommodate her child and grandchild. There are things that she knows, that she never told her daughter. things that will surprise her about her daughter in this situation. She may realise, she never really KNEW her daughter. And that this child will now bring them ever closer or ever further apart.
A mother of a daughter in this position should really focus on getting as much support for her daughter in relation to labour and childbirth. What is done, is done. We now have to develop that young mind to accept her role as a mother and what it will mean to be one.
Yes I may have answered this too late, but it may not be late for someone else reading it.
