I SAW THIS SITE AND SAID ID SEE IF ANY ONE HAS A SIMILAR PROBLOEM TO MINE. I AM A SINGLE MUM TO MY NEARLY 8 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THE DAD HAS ONLY EVER BEEN INVOLVED IN MY DAUGHTERS LIFE FOR HER FIRST 2 YEARS, I AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY NEW PARTNER FOR OVER 2 YEARS NOW, A RELATIONSHIP THAT HAS STARTED TO BECOME SERIOUS THE LAST FEW MONTHS, WE DO NOT LIVE WITH HIM OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT, I DO THINGS WITH BOTH HIM ON HIS OWN AND ALSO WITH MY DAUGHTER AND TRY ONCE A WEEK FOR THE 3 OF US TO DO SOMETHING TOGETHER. HOWEVER I AM FINDING MYSELF IN A AWFUL POSITION AS MY DAUGHTER OFTEN PLAYS UP AND IS RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL TOWARD HIM, HE TRIES TO IGNORE IT BUT LATELLY I FIND HE JUST BLOWS UP NOW ASWELL,HE GOT VERY ANGRY WITH HER A FEW DAYS AGO WHEN SHE STARTED KICKING AT HIIM ETC, I WAS SHOCKED AND IN A VERY UPSETTING POSITION CAUGHT BETWEEN TO PEOPLE I CARE FOR BUT MY LOYALTYS LIE WITH MY CHILD. ITS GOT TO STAGE WHERE I CAN SEE MY RELATIONSHIP ENDING, BECAUSE I JUST CANT STAND THE DYNAMIC OF THEM BOTH TOGETHER ANYMORE. IF ANYBODY HAS BEEN IN A SIMILAR SITUATION OR OFFER SOME ADVICE?
Re: 7 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER DOES NOT RESPECT MY PARTNER
I think you need to first ask her why she does this and see if there is a genuine problem, and if not put your foot down and insist on her showing him respect (but make it clear thats not the same as liking him) and showing herself some respect by behaving decently towards him. Have you let your partner know its ok to tell her off? Sometimes new partners feel they need to tip toe round our children or risk upsetting us and he seems to have tried the extremes of ignoring and then losing his temper which would imply he doesn't think he's in a position to deal with it as a parent.