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6 year old boy

Is it normal for a 6 year old to refuse to listen. I can take things away and put him in a corner, or make him sit. He just will not listen. Is he ever going to grow out of this? Does anyone have suggestion on what I can do wit him?

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I'm having the same opportunity with my 6 yr old son. He doesn't listen and do as he should at school and is constantly in trouble. I have tried taking away computer time, his TV, Nintendo and spanking. I have achieved nothing. I had no problems with him last year abd don't know if it's him or his teacher or the combination. I've also asked for a conference several times, in person and by note and no results from her either, which leaves me to believe it could be a lot due to his teacher as we don't seem to have problems at home. His mother and I plan on going to school w/him next week. I don't know if this will be good or bad, but it can't be worse than nothing. I would love and ideas you may have.
thanks, Keith

Re: 6 year old boy

I had similar problems with my son Joseph. In the end I gave him the silent treatment. I know it sounds cruel but he couldn't stand it when I wasn't talking to him. I started to praise absolutely everything that was good and when he did the stroppy teenager act and wouldnt listen I acted like he wasn't there. within about 2 weeks he'd worked out that if he was good I'd pay attention to him and when he was naughty I wouldn't speak to him.

Start off by praising something really silly like "what a good boy for putting your coat on when I asked". I know it sounds daft but I got to the point where EVERYTHING was a drama and a fight. Carry on with that all day and completely ignore when he starts playing up. If you're having trouble with it leave the room when he's naughty. Just act as if you cant see him at all. The moment he does something good again start to praise him again. Remember to praise absolutely everything from brushing his teeth in the morning to eating all his tea quietly.

I know it all sound to simple to be true but it does really work! Honest!!! After the 1st couple of days you'll notice that things are starting to get a little easier. My son is now 7 and acts like a little grown up. He heps me around the house, cleans his own room and hardly ever answers back or anything. Obviously sometimes you get the occaisonal sillyness but hey, thats kids for ya!! haha