I am looking for advice on my 4 year olds behaviour. He is very bossy with his friends and gets angry and agressive when they wont do what he wants. We have tried to talk to him about it and used time out, taking away his favourite things etc but we dont seem to be getting anywhere. His friends parents are commenting on his behaviour and his nursery teachers. He is very strong willed and his teachers report that he wont sit down and do calmer activities i.e. drawing. I am very concerned about his behaviour as he starts primary school in September. I would really appreciate some help!
hi is your child an only child if so sometimes they have not learnt at home to have to share anything or have a differnt tv program on because its just them, when they start to mix with other children some find it harder than others to accept that its just not them only now as time goes on and he learns routine at school and order and sees that everyone has to follow suit it may get better, remember while you are with him he is getting an added confidence to retaliate with his peers,in stead of trying to tell him now and talking him round where ever he is in a playing enviroment and starts to play up pull him aside and tell him you are not going to listen to him and he cannot play no more until he calms his self and sit him out on a chair on his own repetative behaviour from you at home aswel as out even if its embarrasing, i had this when mine was in playgroup i just grabbed a chair and sat him down at home its the stairs but stick to it dont become frightened of him showing you up,but how they are one month can be totally different to the next.strong positive no to him and dont undo this at anytime when he needs it,he may well at school meet someone just like him self and find him reacting in his own way and starting to deal with demanding behavour slowly but shorely good luck, i bet hes not all bad at the end of the day and you love him dearly and his strong little charactor might be a good thing in the future by giving him the confidence he needs to get on.
thankyou for your advice. We have just had another baby , shes almost 5 months. My son hasnt had to really share at home as he was the only one for a long time and hes been very spoilt by his grandparents as he was the only one for a long time. Im hoping to have different challenges with number 2!
We cannot change people's character. We need bossy people, leaders. He will learn from interacting what doesn't work. Give him more opportunities to lead, and then also opportunities to play with older kids who won't put up with it. He will learn.
try to take him to a large field and let him run around
but, say to him that if he doesn't come back when you tell him to that he will be told off. maybe take him to a sort of cresh.So he will communicate with other children.
