Thanks for your replies.

I am not sure sleeping in my bed would help her as she would probably never sleep in her own bed, as this is my ultimate aim for her to be secure in her own bed. I am sure it works for some people but not us. My son is 5 years old and each night comes into our bedroom. We send him back when we are not too tired or when it is an unreasonable time eg. before 6am. Most of the time he is in our bed sleeping from 6am onwards so my daughter would struggle to find a space in our bed in the first place. Thanks anwyay

woah hold on a minute...your toddler daughter isnt allowed to sleep in ur bed but her five year olds brother is???

how unfair is that??

and why? because he was there first?

you cant have the elder kid in ur bed from 6am every morning, but tell the younger kid there isnt room for her!

thats just totally unfair.

personally i think they both need to get used to sleeping in their own beds.

Yes, it's unfair that our son sleeps in our bed, but this is not through choice. I don't want to make the same mistake again. I suppose your kids are perfect and sleep in their own beds every night. That's because all children are different. We got into the habit of letting him in our bed so as to not disturb the baby when he was young and now it's a hard habit to break.

If he wakes up at 6am and I get up at 6.30am on my working days, what should I do? Mess about for the next half hour until I get up and so wake up the rest of the house or let him in our bed so the rest of the house gets another hour's sleep?

Remember life is not always perfect and I was asking advice on whether she was ready for a bed, not on whether the whole family should sleep in the same bed.