Hi ellie thanks for the reply and the advice. As you suggested we no longer go to the hall where he initially wet himself the club have been very supportive of him and have told all the instructors to be aware that he has had a problem. My main problem is that before the incident he was a very outgoing confident boy and now he's not. I have tried reasoning with him but when he is worried there is just no reasoning with him. I'm considering now getting him some outside help to talk things over with but am worried that i'm making too much out of this .thx mum of two