Hi there. I totally underatand how you feel. I am much in the same situation with my 8 year old, soon to be 9 year old daughter. I found that the reward system at school made her stand out more as being different, although there were some benefits. I too know what it's like to be isolated by other parents, my daughter doesn't get invited to parties etc. I advice you that with school it could be a long process I have been trying for for years now, and my daughter has had her dad come and go in her life too. Have you thought about getting the educational psycologist involved? I did and some of the advice was useful. i Think that your son does what my daughter does and that is try anything to get attention whether it be through being slightly naughty or good. email me or IM me i have lots of advice and can lend you an ear.

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Thanks Rachel-I came down hard on my son at the time of writing of our problems and his last few weeks before xmas hols at school were much better and a lot of positive feedback came back to meand him.
We shall see what the new term brings,but there is a school psychologist going to be paying a visit to all the infant classes in the next few weeks and they will come back to me about how they find his behaviour.
It is really distressing to be in this boat,thank you for your words and it is a relief to know there are other people out there who understand