There has been no changes in her life and she is well hasn't been ill lateley. I think you are right that part of the problem is that she wants to act like a baby in some ways and i agree that because she is still breast feeding doesn't help. Maybe it will be a start by putting limits on her nursing and cutting out the night time feeds beacause it would be nice to have an unbroken nights sleep. Im not sure about making her clean her own panties, i have tried that before and it does not bother her. She is in diapers full time now and still not wanting to go potty, she even peed during a diaper change today all over my bed! Maybe some other punnishment would work or even some rewards system to encourage her to go on the potty? Thankyou for responding and for your advice. Must go she's just got out of bed and asking to nurse Im going to see if she will go back to sleep without it.