UPDATE - This morning my daughter is in pullups for the day. Not only is she still soiling her night time diaper ( 3 times last night) but she has been having more accidents in the day, both pee and poop. The daytime accidents have always been a problem but now they are getting worse. Yesterday at the mall she went through 3 pull ups 2 wet and 1 poopy! So today I have her in pull ups even at home and she is using them all the time. I think its a regression and om at a loss what to do. Should i just put her back in diapers since she has lost interest in going on the toilet or try to get her back in panties? The problem is that she cries if I try to make her wear panties nad takes them off. When i tried to put her in panties this morning she just cried for a pullup or diaper so I gave in even though its the worst thing to do bacause now she will only pee and poop in a pullup or diaper. Just a little back ground on her - she was late to potty train at 4 1/2, but there is nothing wrong with her she is healthy and very smart, she reads at year 3 level. I don't know if the fact that she was so late to potty train has something to do with her regression? I know its not a physical problem and that she doesn't have any control because she will stop what she is doing when shes using her diaper or pull up. one time when she went in her pullup yesterday at the mall we were walking around and all of a sudden stopped and said to me "i need to do pee Mommy" and squatted and wet her pull up then just got up told me she needs a new pullup and kept walking so these are not genuine accident Apart from the potty training issues and the fact that she is still breastfeeding she is just like any othe 6 year old. Please any advice if you have any. I am getting very frustrated with this. Thankyou

Is she poorly?

Has something happened that might have rocked the boat?

If not:

I think you need to put your foot down and put her in knickers and throw away the pull ups...so you might get a soiled bed for a few nights but this sounds like a game and you need to take charge again.

Also if she is making a mess in her knickers 'intentionally' then have her clear it up...she won't do a perfect job off course as she's only 6 but what you have to finish off try and do without her knowing. She won't find it such an attractive thing to do if she's got to do the dirty work herself.

And you probably won't like this one little bit but: have you ever thought that the breastfeeding gives her permission to continue acting like a baby in some areas of her life (ie pooing in her knickers)? 3 feeds a night really isn't necassary for any 6 year old and hats off to you for your patience but wouldn't you benefit from her sleeping through without?

Wouldn't have thought the late potty training would have anything to do with it. She's totally aware of what she's doing so sounds more like she's worked out a good game to wind you up with.

There has been no changes in her life and she is well hasn't been ill lateley. I think you are right that part of the problem is that she wants to act like a baby in some ways and i agree that because she is still breast feeding doesn't help. Maybe it will be a start by putting limits on her nursing and cutting out the night time feeds beacause it would be nice to have an unbroken nights sleep. Im not sure about making her clean her own panties, i have tried that before and it does not bother her. She is in diapers full time now and still not wanting to go potty, she even peed during a diaper change today all over my bed! Maybe some other punnishment would work or even some rewards system to encourage her to go on the potty? Thankyou for responding and for your advice. Must go she's just got out of bed and asking to nurse Im going to see if she will go back to sleep without it.