'On a Saturday night she gets home from gym at about 9pm having done 4 hrs of gym '

Exercise gives you more energy, stimulates chemicals in your brain or something scientific like that so even if your bodys worn out your minds more active...so where you say its like it makes her mind not stop you've probably hit the nail on the head

Nicki,

Thank you for the reply! I hope someone that reads this can give us both some advice on how to slow their minds down so they can sleep. Good luck to you also!

Lori