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I beg anyone with any info to please reply. My three year old little boy is sadly out of control. One Dr. says he is autistic and one doesnt. He is very anti-social with other children only. He is comfortable around most adults. Crowded places and/or noisy places all but kill him. It is extremely sad. He is exremely violent, especially to his 5 year old sister one minute (beating her in the face and head or punching her elsewhere, amoung other things w/o reason) but after he gets whatever it is out of his system he can be the most loving child. We do not allow him to abuse anyone, however these rages are not aviodable. When he is in a situation he is uncomfortable in he will either squeeze me face or arm and scream "E" or punch my backside also. The list goes on and on. He is never just satisfied. It goes beyond just being a spoiled child w/o discipline. If anyone can relate, PLEASE respond.
Given that you are desperate the only thing I can suggest is to have a look at his diet. This is a great website www.fedupwithfoodadditives.info if you want to look into dietary aspects. It might help as preservative can exaggerate violent and bad behaviour. A lot of parents have seen big improvements in behaviour by changing diet, I am one of them.
Give it a try it can't hurt but don't expect any changes for at least a week. Good luck
I assume you have tried all the positive parenting rules of time out, positive reinforcement etc etc? I have a three year old boy and a 5 year old girl and my son can show very aggressive behaviour, especially towards other children of his age and his sister, seemingly for no reason, and be the sweetest boy at other times. I wouldn't say I have cracked it yet but have seen great improvement simply by establishing much stricter routines into our lives, and also ensuring he sleeps longer hours. He seems to behave much better if a) he is rested and b) he knows what is going to happen when, especially if he can be given some input/cooperation tasks (help mum set the table, choose clothes for tomorrow etc). I know it must seem obvious to most, but it wasn't to me!
If you haven't tried it yet, it might be worth having a go.